Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies

Based on the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies and drawing on the authors twenty-five years of clinical practice this anatomy of secret desire does for sexual fantasy what Kinsey did for sexual behavior. However unlike Kinseys books which were almost unreadably dense and data-driven Whos Been Sleeping in Your Head? features narrative accounts of sexual fantasies and the authors own insightful interpretations of how those fantasies affect our lives. Kahr reveals the astonishing truth behind secrecy shame and taboo and demonstrates how sex fantasies exert a more powerful influence on our emotions behavior and relationships than we ever imagined. Kahrs insights are liberating. He tells us the story of Margaret who in mining early sexual abuse for arousing and satisfying sexual fantasies: succeeded brilliantly in turning a childhood trauma into an adult triumph. He explains how he helped a young man who couldnt get turned on by his beautiful girlfriend but only by dominatrix-themed porn and how numerous men and women used fantasy to become more intimate with their partners-or to be unfaithful or even cruel to them instead. Ultimately by unmasking the myths and destroying the guilt and ignorance surrounding sexual fantasy Kahr offers readers a chance to lead richer and less conflicted lives.